Not sure how to describe the feeling. Its like being back at square one of being bereaved, only this time there is a deadness to it. There is a loss of self plus the added factor of coping with social functionality. Thoughts of life being taken for granted due to social formality.There is no freedom in loss.There is a uniformity of continuum which is viewed as a norm, but supersedes the norm. Social factors and life form has developed into a realm of no leeway.
There is no room to expel the most surreal and unnatural experience. If there was, there would be more meaning and appreciation to life and the meaning of it all
For instance, a loved one who forms most of our lives and interwines into every cell of the other in an instant dies. Their moments in life versus their death; in death social norms allow for the dead to be forgotten in days or months, which does not equate to the amount of years they lived. If there was meaning in life, social norms would allow for the bereaved to grief as part of a cathartic experience with no time limits.
Experiencing bereavement is within itself a phenomena. Only that this phenomena is not embraced. Its observed and seen by the non exposed but not internalised. There is an expectation to recognise and respect the bereaved but with time limits. Anything beyond the expected time limit by society is verging on 'madness'.
There is some level of 'madness' in that sense in society. How is it normal to allow for no prolonged bereavement process? How can meaning of life exist if it can only be forgotten due to social functioning?
Social functioning is the need to keep the revolving wheel going, in a robotic society. The person (the bereaved) who is experiencing this phenonmena is expected to heal and move on. All in aid of social robotism.
The 'madness' in this form of social functioning is that the doing (e.g. working) at the end of the day is meaningless when one is dead.
So when society is very much alive wouldn't it be more beneficial to experience with the other and acknowledge the dead for as long as they lived?
For their life had to have some meaning (especially as the spent their life 'doing') all in the name of social functioning.
